#28: What is your love language?
What are they again?
words of affirmation/encouragement
quality time
gifts
acts of service
physical touch
I actually had no idea what my love language was until this year. Whenever we talked about this in church, or wherever, I always just kind of guessed. It switched between a few of them.
What I discovered is that you'll find out pretty quickly what your love language is if you don't receive it.
My love language is words of affirmation/encouragement. I don't necessarily need people to tell me they love me (because honestly, that actually makes me feel a bit uncomfortable), but I need to hear that I'm doing a good job. I need to hear that I'm doing something right. I need to hear that someone's proud of me. That's when I feel the most loved.
I think people often mistake my love language for acts of service. I'm always so surprised and very appreciative if someone does something for me, but that's not my love language. (In fact, most of the time, I like to do things myself anyway because I'm one of those people that likes things done a certain way.) Actually, I think acts of service is probably #4.
My #2 is definitely quality time. I think that surprises people sometimes because I'm very introverted. But I can definitely tell that quality time is up in the rankings of love languages for me. For example, I haven't hung out with my best friend since her wedding two months ago and I'm going absolutely crazy.
If you know me at all, you know that my very last love language is physical touch. It's funny because I used to love hugging people and stuff like that, but now it just makes me uncomfortable. (It probably has something to do with trust/intimacy issues that I have, but I can't believe I just said that, yet I'm gonna keep it on the post anyway because I want to be open and honest. Change of subject now...)
As for gifts, I like giving them and I like receiving them, but it's not really a huge thing for me. Like I would be fine if I didn't get any gifts for Christmas or my birthday, I'd rather spend time with the person.
That's that.
Until next time,
au revoir mes amies
